The S-Anon Family Groups consist of relatives and friends of sexaholics who realize that by banding together they can better solve their common problems. We recommend you try our program. Without help, living with, or having lived with a sexaholic is too much for most of us. We become nervous, irritable, and unreasonable; our thinking becomes confused, and our perspective becomes distorted. Rarely have we seen a person who has not greatly benefited by working the S-Anon program. The Twelve Steps of S-Anon which we try to follow are not easy. At first, we may think that some of them are unnecessary, but if we are honest, open-minded, and willing apply the principles of the Twelve Steps to our lives, we find that the benefits can be limitless, including the gift of Serenity.
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S-Anon is a fellowship of people who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other so that they may solve their common problems and help others to recover. The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of sexaholism in a relative or friend. There are no dues or fees for S-Anon membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. S-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to recovery from the effects upon us of another person’s sexaholism, and to help families and friends of sexaholics.
We try to carry the S-Anon message by sharing our experience, strength, and hope with others, and we have found our joy and gratitude growing when we see the attitudes of other people change from despair to hope. We have seen that we can be uniquely helpful to those who are still suffering from the effects of sexaholism. We also strive to bring the same love and tolerance we are developing in our S-Anon group and in our close family relationships into our other personal, work, and community relationships. We have found this to the path toward continued spiritual growth.
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Is S-Anon Right For You?
1. Have you felt hurt or embarrassed by someone’s sexual conduct?
2.Have you secretly searched for clues about someone’s sexual behavior?
3. Have you lied about or covered up another person’s sexual conduct?
4. Have you had money problems because of someone’s sexual behavior?
5. Have you felt betrayed or abandoned by someone you loved and trusted?
6. Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic for fear that he or she will leave you?
7. Have you tried to control somebody’s sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing away pornography, dressing suggestively, or being sexual with them in order to keep them from being sexual with others?
8. Have you used sex to try to keep peace in a relationship?
9. Have you tried to convince yourself that someone else’s sexual thoughts and behavior shouldn’t bother you
10. Have you felt that sex plays an all-consuming role in your relationship?
11. Have you doubted your attractiveness, your emotions, and your sanity?
12. Have you felt responsible for the sexual behavior of another person?
13. Have you felt angry and/or stupid for not knowing about someone’s sexual acting out behavior?
14. Have you engaged in uncomfortable, unwanted, or physically dangerous sexual behavior?
15. Have you ever thought about or attempted suicide because of someone’s sexual behavior?
16. Has your preoccupation with someone’s sexual thoughts and behavior affected your relationships with your children, your co-workers, and/or other friends or family members?
17. Have you neglected your physical and/or emotional health while in a relationship?
18. Have you helped someone get out of jail or other legal trouble, or feared legal action as a result of his or her sexual behavior?
19. Have you blamed other people, such as friends or sexual partners, society in general, his/her job, religion, or birth family for someone’s sexual behavior?
20. Have you felt confused about what is true when talking with someone about his or her sexual thoughts or behavior?
21. Have you avoided painful emotions by using drugs, alcohol, or food or by being too busy?
22. Have you ever felt that someone was inappropriately attracted to you or your children?
23. Have you felt alone or too ashamed to ask for help?
If you can answer "yes" to some of these questions, you may find help in S-Anon.
*Reprinted with permission of S-Anon International Family Groups, Inc., Nashville, TN. Compliance with S-Anon International Family Groups, Inc.'s copyrights and trademarks is required.
1. Have you felt hurt or embarrassed by someone’s sexual conduct?
2.Have you secretly searched for clues about someone’s sexual behavior?
3. Have you lied about or covered up another person’s sexual conduct?
4. Have you had money problems because of someone’s sexual behavior?
5. Have you felt betrayed or abandoned by someone you loved and trusted?
6. Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic for fear that he or she will leave you?
7. Have you tried to control somebody’s sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing away pornography, dressing suggestively, or being sexual with them in order to keep them from being sexual with others?
8. Have you used sex to try to keep peace in a relationship?
9. Have you tried to convince yourself that someone else’s sexual thoughts and behavior shouldn’t bother you
10. Have you felt that sex plays an all-consuming role in your relationship?
11. Have you doubted your attractiveness, your emotions, and your sanity?
12. Have you felt responsible for the sexual behavior of another person?
13. Have you felt angry and/or stupid for not knowing about someone’s sexual acting out behavior?
14. Have you engaged in uncomfortable, unwanted, or physically dangerous sexual behavior?
15. Have you ever thought about or attempted suicide because of someone’s sexual behavior?
16. Has your preoccupation with someone’s sexual thoughts and behavior affected your relationships with your children, your co-workers, and/or other friends or family members?
17. Have you neglected your physical and/or emotional health while in a relationship?
18. Have you helped someone get out of jail or other legal trouble, or feared legal action as a result of his or her sexual behavior?
19. Have you blamed other people, such as friends or sexual partners, society in general, his/her job, religion, or birth family for someone’s sexual behavior?
20. Have you felt confused about what is true when talking with someone about his or her sexual thoughts or behavior?
21. Have you avoided painful emotions by using drugs, alcohol, or food or by being too busy?
22. Have you ever felt that someone was inappropriately attracted to you or your children?
23. Have you felt alone or too ashamed to ask for help?
If you can answer "yes" to some of these questions, you may find help in S-Anon.
*Reprinted with permission of S-Anon International Family Groups, Inc., Nashville, TN. Compliance with S-Anon International Family Groups, Inc.'s copyrights and trademarks is required.